Coping With Death
Both Anita and Marc have left us… and it’s just now starting to sink in. TheMacinjosh is one friend who responded to something I posted to YouTube the other day:
I just watched your video about your friends that recently passed away… and I can tell they obviously meant a lot to you, as they did to many others and I’m sorry to hear about the sad news. I have been thinking about how we all have to face death too, probably in another capacity though… and my thoughts have been brought on by anxiety issues I’ve had lately, but still… it’s been really bothering me. It’s just that I want to believe that our consciousness lives on somehow, but it’s really difficult to fathom what we even could experience after this life. I just hope I can find some sort of reassurance before my time comes, because to be honest I am scared, especially knowing that life is such a fragile thing and there really is no guarantee that we will all have each other the next day, or hour or whatever. I completely agree that we need to not take anyone for granted, whether we encounter people in real life or virtually.
This is the video he’s talking about:
I mentioned Marc and Gnomedex in my first post about his heart attack — and someone accused me of using the tradgedy as a way to plug the conference. Nothing could have been further from the truth, and I’ve read more than a few blogs about Marc’s passing which specifically reference meeting him at Gnomedex. Hey, that was the last time some of us saw him — myself included.
Leave it to Scoble to find one of my old Flickr photos — and this may very well be the only photo to ever have been taken with both Marc and Anita in it:
Take care, gang…
4 Comments
David
December 14th, 2007
at 1:20am
I have lost my share of family, friends, and pets but the hardest loss for me was my little dog named Pixel. The two of us had a very deep emotional bond and we trusted each other. I took her to the usual Halloween contest dressed as Red Riding Hood and the next day she got sick and nine days later she passed away in my arms. I was looking right into her eyes when it happened, and I will never forgot it. She took my heart with her, and I will never be the same again. The only solace I have is that I will see her again in heaven as we will all see our family, friends and loved ones again in heaven. I am convinced that they come around and visit us regularly, and they will leave or do stuff just to say hi. Next time you pick up a coin, feather, or her a weird knock on the wall its probably them. I understand they do other stuff too like cause the phone to ring, a flower to bloom, or birds to come visit and that is just a small percentage of what they might do. Good people always go to heaven, and how to tell a good person from a bad person? Good people always feel guilt when they do something wrong and thats how I know we will see our loved ones and pets in heaven.
Jerry
December 14th, 2007
at 8:09am
It’s difficult, and it requires some adjustment when someone close dies. The end result of the process is usually a deepening of one’s philosophy of life, and this deepening continues over all the years as, one by one, friends depart. The older you get, the more you feel that they are not really gone, and finally one day you come to feel that life and death aren’t really as absolute as people think. This may sound like a strange proposition, but you will see.
Tom Farley
December 14th, 2007
at 10:14am
I would like to let the MacinJosh (and everyone else) know that there is an answer to afterlife. I realize most people are just going to say that the following is just my opinion, but until you’ve experienced it you just can’t fully understand. Chris can decide to print this or not.
Let me lay it right out. Jesus Christ died for all our sins. We can all have His peace of mind and hope for eternity if we just follow His advice and become “born-again”. These are not my words. They are printed in nearly every version of the Christian Bible. John chapter 3, check it out for yourself. Also read Romans chapter 6. I’m not just trying to push my opinion. This is what the Word of God says. From personal experience I can tell you that it is true! If you confess your sin to Christ in sincere prayer, asking Him to forgive you and help you live right, you will experience His life changing power too! I know this can sound strange, but, it is a nearly indescribable change in your inner most being. Salvation through Christ results in peace, joy, hope for the future, excitement for life and so many more positive emotions.
Am I one of those people who think I know the ONLY way to Heaven? Yes, because that’s what the Bible says plain and simple. It’s not a condescending opinion. Most born-again Christians just want you to become God’s child too. We are motivated by wanting to see as many people in Heaven as possible. Not because we think we’re right and you’re wrong. Simply just because that is what God’s word says is required to obtain eternal life.
One final comment, before I’m accused of being hateful and intolerant. I do not hate anyone. I do not hate Muslims, Buddists, other Christian denominations, Jews, etc. I do not hate homosexuals. No true Christian hates anyone. As stated above, we just want to see them make it through the pearly gates too.
I hope this is allowed to be passed on and I hope it helps MacinJosh and anyone else willing to open their hearts to Christ Jesus.
Howard Lincks
December 14th, 2007
at 5:09pm
Sorry for your loss-it is never easy trying to make sense of the death of anyone. Life and death are intertwined and unfortunately out finite minds aren’t able to appreciate full circle that defines all our lives. While there are no words that can make the pain of loss goaway remember thatwe all live forever in the rememberances of people whose lives we have touched, like all of your readers