Want a way to avoid getting in toruble when arguing with someone

Let them be the only one to complain. Eventually, they get so pissed off that you are not giving them something to continue the tirate about, they give up and leave you alone.

Just a few minutes ago, my mother attempted to fan an argument from earlier today. As soon as she approached me, I knew what was comming. So, I just let her go. I said nothing, and in the process failed to land in anymore trouble from the arguing. It also help my blood pressure. I didn’t get worked up over what she said, I didn’t allow myself to get so enraged that I had to defend myself. I just let her finally give up. My mother is the type, she wants someone to yell at so that she can vent her own frustrations about everything at someone else. If you fail to give them reasons to continue the onslaught, they eventually tire of trying. If you find yourself getting worked up at a spouse, sibling, parent, child, or anyone… just let them vent. Even if you feel they are wrong, and they are starting to say stuff that you and they know are attempts to get you enraged, let it go.