eHarmony is one of the most popular dating Web sites with over 20 million registered users. eHarmony sets itself apart from other dating Web sites with its unique method of matching members with its “scientific approach to matching highly compatible singles.” eHarmony’s matching is based on using its “29 DIMENSIONS®” model to match couples based on features of compatibility rather than on a haphazard approach commonly used by competitors such as Match.com and OkCupid.

Even though eHarmony uses layers of matchmaking to find compatibility between users of eHarmony, first impressions still count as in any approach to dating. eHarmony users, especially female, still need to put thought and detailed effort into the creation of their profiles to garner the appropriate attention from those pursuing them on eHarmony. If you want to be successful using eHarmony, here’s some advice for what not to do in your eHaromy profile:

• Sharing photos of yourself on eHarmony that include a guy who could be assumed to be your ex-boyfriend is never a good idea. Also not a good idea? Putting a black box over your ex-boyfriend’s head and using that as your profile picture. Any other Tucker Max style photo (e.g., Your Face Here) should be avoided, too.



• Using pictures that make you look like you are a 12-year-old is also a bad idea. Even if you normally do look like you’re 12, using photos that make you look underage are likely to prompt some questionable responses from people who may or may not have previously been featured on To Catch a Predator.
• Don’t use a profile picture featuring you with people hotter than you. This will, obviously, make you look less attractive than you actually are, and will otherwise highlight your negative attributes.
• Don’t include drunken pictures on your eHarmony profile that you can’t remember being taken, either, as well as photos taken in your bathroom. MySpace shots are so 2008 — and they don’t belong on a dating profile, no matter how cute you think you look in your bathroom mirror.
• Using pictures from 2008 are also a bad idea. Recent pictures are ideal for helping your future special someone get to know who you are now — not who you were back in college.
• Don’t post pictures that give more than a little peek of skin. Guys totally get the wrong message if you can see down your shirt or up your skirt in your pictures. If that’s your game, though, go ahead and post ‘em.

DO show off your interests and personality through the pictures in your profile. Well, unless your hobbies involve Garbage Pail Kids, and then maybe you shouldn’t. If you are obsessed with LEGOs or Star Wars, though, then you should show off your sexy self with your collections, too. After all, if you want a long-term connection with someone, you should find the person who loves you and all your quirks — as geeky as they may be.