Sociological Sex Survey Summation

A fellow geek and I were talking about favorite and amusing sites.  We traded a few, which I forwarded to my colleagues, including something to the effect of guessmy*$&#.com

What I intended as a joke inadvertently became a passion for my colleagues.  Within a week I still had yet to visit the site while my homies were avidly discussing which candidate won the prize, in their opinion.  It became quite a lively and spirited debate.

I’ll be honest, I don’t do a lot of time-wasting at work, especially of that nature.  Any reader of this blog knows I’m not what you’d call a prude but it’s just not for work.

Eventually I succumbed to peer pressure and visited the site (from home).  I’m a healthy guy and I likes my adult entertainment but I was equally fascinated by the why of the exercise (once I got past the first few hundred photos).

If I understand correctly, the aim of the exercise is to determine which separate part of the contestant goes with which contestant.  Again, once I got past the pictures, the concept intrigued and befuddled me.

Maybe it’s because I’m of a certain age.  Maybe it’s because I’m of a certain generation.  Maybe it’s because I’m not really all that attractive and would never think of posting nude pictures of myself or of a part of myself for all the world to see…. I don’t know…. but it was sociologically fascinating.

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Flash forward a few weeks.  A coworker mentions he forgot the url of that specific site so he put in something similar, with similar results.  He had no idea the concept was so popular.  The difference on this one was that there was no guessing which part went with which body; it was just about showing off the body or specific aspects of it.

He pointed out the first page and I opined that while the subject matter was certainly uplifting and enjoyable in spots, it had to indicate something bad, sociologically speaking.  Even though neither of us ever studied sociology, he suspected that I was correct.

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What is this new exhibitionism about?

We also have sexting.  Oral sex isn’t sex (or cheating, but don’t tell my wife).  I have a young niece who has a reputation as a prolific oral practitioner.

I have long preached that we need to remove the taboos from sex.  Once we stop making it `dirty’, it will stop being a problem.  This is of particular significance to the religious arena.  I wonder if what we’re seeing is the removal of taboos and freeing of sex….. or just another symptom of my fear that we’re all going downhill, fast (reality tv, anyone?).  Women’s liberation gone insane, perhaps?

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While I was working on a different blog post, I came across this bit on why women have sex.   One section that really threw me was different motivations, including:

• bring them closer to God
• revenge sex (if you’re pissed about your partner having sex, does having sex with someone else give you the higher moral ground?)
• competition sex: friends go to a bar and each try to get the guy to have sex with them
• another notch on the bedpost
• rid one’s self of that nasty virginity thing
• sympathy sex for different reasons (sex has little or no value?)
• exchange for job, promotion, money, drugs

I have to admit to a bit of ambivalence on this issue.  It’s a bit shocking on its surface but part of me wants to know where these women were when I was young and single (as opposed to older and still highly immature).

After some thought about the above reasons, I am man-bound to put in my five cents:

• If I can help bring someone closer to God, it’s my religious duty.
• Yeah, use me for revenge then don’t come around again.
• You don’t have to compete: just ask.
• If I am but a notch, I’ll aim to be a sizable one.
• I can’t stand blood.
• You feel sorry for me because I don’t get much, that’s it.
• I may not be able to get you a job but we can exchange skill sets.

Your input?