Ron Schenone

Can Using Facebook Be Hazardous To Your Marriage?

Posted by on Dec 23, 2009 | 7 Comments

Some researchers in the UK believe that Facebook can be hazardous to married people. They cite the fact that one in five people who are currently filing for divorce are citing Facebook as the cause of the breakup. It seems that some are actually having virtual love affairs on Facebook with people they have not actually met. Suspicious spouses are also searching the Facebook site looking for evidence of flirting and even online affairs.

According to one source it states:

“The most common reason seemed to be people having inappropriate sexual chats with people they were not supposed to.”

Flirty emails and messages found on Facebook pages are increasingly being cited as evidence of unreasonable behavior.

Computer firms have even cashed in by developing software allowing suspicious spouses to electronically spy on someone’s online activities.

One 35-year-old woman even discovered her husband was divorcing her via Facebook.

Last year a 28-year-old woman ended her marriage after discovering her husband had been having a virtual affair with someone in cyberspace he had never met.

Amy Taylor 28, split from David Pollard after discovering he was sleeping with an escort in the game Second Life, a virtual world where people reinvent themselves.

I personally find this ridiculous. These people shouldn’t be married in the first place. Obviously they do not love each other, but if they do, have no respect for their spouse or themselves. How can anyone have a cyber relationship with someone? What’s next, cyber sex?

Comments welcome.

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  • http://lockergnome.com/themoderngeek The Modern Geek

    To answer your post title: Yes. My girlfriend and I recently deleted our Facebook accounts. Facebook was great for certain things like sharing photos with family members, but I do feel that Facebook, in certain ways, can cause issues in relationships.

  • http://wp3.lockergnome.com/nexus/blade/ Ron Schenone

    Thanks for sharing your experience with us.

  • Roelof

    Rubbish. A divorce because of a flirty email? Typical overreacting like some women tend to do. What’s next? Getting divorced because you exchange a few words with the woman who’s in line before you at the supermarket checkout? Like you said, Ron, these people shouldn’t be married in the first place – no to each other anyway.

    This post reminded me of another case of someone being active on Facebook, with unexpected consequences. You may already have heard the story, but here it is
    http://news.aol.com/article/nathalie-blanchard-says-she-lost/778856

  • Mark Hilton

    wow that is slightly alarming lol to read that people can have virtual affairs and think they can get away with it, whilst their partners are investing money in specialist software to track down what their up to lol

    but having said that i can’t see problems with using facebook whilst married, but obviously if they if they do develop such affair then they do need to think about cloisng such accounts

  • Brian Patrie

    “What’s next, cyber sex?”

    You must be new to these woods. That sort of thing has been going on for at least 25 years.

  • Cliffystones

    I signed up for Facebook at the request of my Half-Sister so we could exchange pictures of our children.

    All of a sudden in the last month or so I start getting “friend requests” from young, 20-something, attractive (at least the picture they add is) women I don’t know and have nerve heard of. I am over 50 and have a niece that age. Some guy with little or no common sense might think it’s his lucky day. I think that’s what these people are counting on. I’m sure it is another scam or attempt at identity theft. I simply decline the invite and report them as someone I don’t know.

    I’m a happily married faithful man. But I’ve even told the Ms. that if Anne Hathaway ever walks up to me an sits on my lap well……………

    Of course there’s a better chance of monkeys flying out of my &*%!

  • http://wp3.lockergnome.com/nexus/blade/ Ron Schenone

    Cliffystones,
    Thanks you very much for a good hearty laugh. Your description[s] were very humorous.

    All the best, Ron